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妈宝渣男

文化生活是人们社会活动的一部分，尽管忙忙碌碌会使人甚至不认识自己，但依然需要有一些业余生活。其中，比较高雅的文化生活就除了看书、听音乐还有看文艺演出，不仅有文化的享受，也有助于提升自己的修养。当然，经济社会中的各种活动也有其价格差异。

大都市常有国际上知名的演出团体来演出，不仅是城市生活的一部分，也是国际交流的一种形式，特别是在人们生活水平提高的同时，需要更多的交流来填充生活的各个角落。虽然不需要世界大同，但了解各民族的特点，体会优秀的文化传承也是很重要的一部分。

中国有五千年悠久历史，有四大发明，更是礼仪之邦，社会的文明程度随着教育的延伸也会不断提高。不过，良莠不齐，不和谐的声音也会在和谐的环境中冒出来，使人厌恶，更让人觉得悲哀，虽然难于避免，但深究也有其必然的原因。

一日，在北京世纪剧院看俄罗斯芭蕾舞团的表演，剧目是经典的天鹅湖和胡桃夹子，这是柴可夫斯基在一百多年前创作的剧目，流传至今丝毫不减其魅力，不仅脍炙人口，更是人们喜爱的传统剧目之一。而俄罗斯芭蕾舞团的表演也属于世界顶级水平。在北京的演出虽然没有到座无虚席的程度，但从票价的面值看还是属于相当高级的演出。

不过，演出过程中还是从观众席传出不和谐声音，引起绝大部分观众的反感。开始演出前，剧场反复宣读纪律，演出过程中不要照相。虽然在如今人手一部手机的今天，免不了还是有人会违规，但大多数人还是自觉地遵守规定，何况是在这种严肃的场合。

上半场演出开始不久，楼上的后面就传来嘈杂的声音，可以听到工作人员的低声劝阻和一个年轻人高声争辩的声音不断出现。明显地听到年轻人的声音在说，我为什么不能照，你们为什么用灯晃我。看来他一直在强词夺理。为了不影响观众，工作人员的声音停了下来。

到了中场休息还没走到去洗手间的门，原来的声音又出现了，此时，还夹着一些别人的声音在争吵。走近一看，一个白净的小伙子就是那位违规者，一位工作人员也没有太严厉的词句，就是反复宣讲规定，旁边几位明显的就是观众已经火上来了，都在训斥那位自以为是的男士，并说你应该出去，不要再这么丢人地坐在这里看演出。此时，他的争辩能力明显减弱，最后，开始耍赖说要是退票他就走。

这位男士的言行完全符合当今社会流行的一个词：精致利己主义者。这种人看似一表人材，但做出事却是完全不靠谱，如果事不关己还有一番高谈阔论，一旦涉及个人利益绝对就是以自我为中心，可以没有公德，还可以没有廉耻，所以，对这个人还有一个词来描述：妈宝渣男。

在众人鄙视的目光下，这位渣男又进去坐下。看着反复劝他的那位工作人员，除了一脸无奈外，还带有无辜的表情，因为她并没有执法权，也没有同事出来平息这件事，估计剧场的领导也缩在一旁，不愿意把事情闹大。主要是因为渣男的气焰嚣张，似乎没有一点办法来对付他。

事情起因就是渣男用手机拍照，工作人员看到后用激光灯照他，来提醒他违规了，而他不但不觉得自己有错在先，还反过来埋怨工作人员。明明白白地说出为何不能拍照这种混账话，之后反咬一口说工作人员晃了他的眼。他在和他人争辩时，没有一点歉意，更没有觉得自己有错。

如今社会上有很多这种渣男，大都是出自家境相对富裕的家庭，他们从小就被娇生惯养，自以为是天之骄子，做什么事都有家人支持，哪怕是违法乱纪，甚至开始犯罪也会被家人认为是偶尔为之的初犯，家庭的包庇会使这些渣男无所顾忌，就像眼前遇到的这位一样，对于违规没有觉得是不对的，外界对他的指责只是没有顺从他的本意，而使他恼怒。

家庭的富裕与素质的高低没有必然关系，特别是对于暴发户，更是在素质教育上会走向更偏离的边缘，更会因为手里有钱而为所欲为。另外，社会的飞速发展也使应有的教育出现不知所以的真空地带，如果家庭和社会都没有真正重视何为该有的素质，何为该有的规矩，那渣男的出现就是必然的结果。培养出这种妈宝渣男是教育的失败，有学校的不足，更有家庭的失误，

高雅环境中出现这种低俗行为实在让人扫兴，但愿妈宝渣男越来越少。

**Mama’s Boy Scumbag**

Cultural life is an integral part of social activities. Even though a busy lifestyle might make people feel disconnected from themselves, leisure activities remain essential. Among these, refined cultural activities like reading, listening to music, and attending art performances not only provide cultural enjoyment but also help elevate one's personal refinement. Of course, various activities in a market economy come with different price tags.

In major cities, internationally renowned performance groups often come to stage shows. These performances are not only a part of urban life but also a form of international exchange. Especially as living standards improve, more exchanges are needed to fill the gaps in our lives. While global unity may not be necessary, understanding the unique characteristics of different nations and appreciating their rich cultural heritage is undoubtedly important.

China boasts a five-thousand-year-long history and is known as the land of propriety, with many great inventions to its name. As education expands, the level of societal civility will continue to rise. However, inconsistencies in behavior still exist, and unpleasant occurrences sometimes disrupt harmonious environments. Although such incidents are difficult to avoid, there are often underlying reasons for their inevitability.

One day, I attended a performance by the Russian Ballet at Beijing’s Century Theater, featuring classics like *Swan Lake* and *The Nutcracker*, both of which were composed by Tchaikovsky over a century ago. These timeless works remain as captivating today as ever, beloved by audiences around the world. The Russian Ballet is known for being among the best in the world, and while the theater wasn’t completely packed, the ticket prices were certainly high for this kind of upscale performance.

However, during the show, there were some unpleasant disruptions from the audience, drawing the ire of the majority of spectators. Before the performance began, the theater had repeatedly reminded everyone to refrain from taking photos during the show. Although in today’s world, where everyone carries a phone, it’s difficult to avoid such violations, most people consciously adhered to the rules, especially in such a serious setting.

Shortly after the first half of the performance began, a commotion broke out in the upper balcony. We could hear staff members quietly advising a young man, but his loud and argumentative voice continued to interrupt. He kept insisting, “Why can’t I take pictures? Why are you shining the light on me?” It was clear he was trying to justify his actions. To avoid disturbing others, the staff eventually quieted down.

During the intermission, just as I was heading to the restroom, the same voice emerged again, this time mixed with others in an argument. Upon closer inspection, I saw a fair-skinned young man—the same violator from earlier—and a staff member who was patiently explaining the rules. Nearby, a few agitated audience members had had enough, berating the man and telling him, “You should leave. Stop embarrassing yourself by staying here.” At this point, his ability to argue had weakened, and he eventually resorted to childish behavior, saying he would leave only if they refunded his ticket.

This young man’s behavior perfectly fits the modern-day label of a "sophisticated egoist." Such individuals may look well-presented, but their actions are completely unreliable. They may give grand speeches when uninvolved, but when their personal interests are at stake, they become utterly self-centered, showing no concern for public decency or shame. Thus, another apt term to describe him is a "mama’s boy scumbag."

Under the contemptuous gaze of the crowd, this scumbag returned to his seat. The staff member who had repeatedly tried to reason with him looked helpless, with a mixture of frustration and innocence on her face. After all, she didn’t have the authority to enforce rules, and no colleagues had stepped in to resolve the situation. Likely, the theater’s management preferred not to escalate things further, while the scumbag’s arrogant attitude left them with no effective way to handle him.

The issue stemmed from the scumbag using his phone to take photos. When the staff noticed, they shone a laser pointer at him to remind him of his violation. However, instead of acknowledging his mistake, he blamed the staff for distracting him. His argument was absurd, and he even went so far as to claim that the staff had blinded him with their light. Throughout the dispute, he showed no sign of remorse or any sense of wrongdoing.

Society today is full of such scumbags, many of whom come from relatively affluent families. They’ve been spoiled since childhood, believing they are entitled to everything. No matter what they do, their families support them, even if they break the law. Families often downplay their wrongdoings as mere first-time mistakes. This kind of familial protection enables scumbags to act without consequence, just like the one I encountered. To him, breaking the rules wasn’t wrong, and the outside world’s criticism was simply a failure to accommodate his desires, which made him angry.

There is no direct correlation between wealth and good manners. In fact, nouveau riche families often stray further from proper education, and with money at their disposal, they feel they can act however they wish. Additionally, the rapid development of society has created an educational vacuum, where families and society fail to emphasize proper manners and behavior. If this lack of attention continues, the rise of mama’s boy scumbags will be an inevitable result. The emergence of such individuals represents a failure of education, with schools falling short and families making grave mistakes.

It’s disheartening to witness such lowly behavior in an otherwise refined environment. Hopefully, we will see fewer and fewer mama’s boy scumbags in the future.